You Make Sense: A Trauma-Informed Reframe for Why You Feel Stuck
If you’ve ever thought:
"I should be over this by now."
"Why do I keep doing the same thing?"
"What’s wrong with me?"
You’re not broken — you’re stuck in a pattern. And more importantly:
you make sense.
Most patterns aren’t random — they’re protective.
So many of the things we struggle with — overthinking, shutting down, lashing out, people-pleasing, avoiding — are adaptations. They’re strategies we developed to survive pain, stay connected, or feel safe in an environment that didn’t fully meet our needs.
These behaviors were formed in childhood, in our families of origin- either as a response to survive relational trauma, or adapting to environments that asked us to hide, morph, or over-function in order to belong.
And while those patterns may no longer serve you…
they still make sense.
A trauma-informed lens changes everything.
In therapy, we look at your patterns with curiosity, not judgment.
We ask:
Where did this strategy come from?
How did it help you cope, connect, or stay safe?
What might it be protecting you from now?
This lens doesn’t excuse harmful behavior — it humanizes it.
When we see our responses as adaptations, not flaws, we create space to shift — with compassion instead of shame.
“Stuck” is often a sign of survival, not failure.
If you feel stuck in a cycle you can’t seem to change, it’s often because something deep inside you still believes it’s protecting you — from abandonment, conflict, vulnerability, loss.
Therapy helps bring those beliefs to the surface. We slow things down.
We connect to your nervous system, your emotional history, your unmet needs.
And from that place of awareness, you can begin to choose something new.
You don’t have to fight yourself to grow.
This is what trauma-informed therapy offers:
A place to feel safe enough to pause.
To be seen without judgment.
To understand your story in context.
To shift patterns from the inside out — with care, with support, and at your own pace.
💭 Reflect:
What’s a pattern you’ve judged yourself for… that might’ve once kept you safe?
What would it feel like to meet that part of you with curiosity instead of shame?
Who might you become if you didn’t have to protect so much?
You don’t have to answer right now. Just notice what stirs.
You make sense. And there’s space here for all of you.
💬 If this resonates…
I work with adults and couples navigating identity, grief, life transitions, and relational patterns rooted in early attachment and survival roles. Together, we can help you make sense of your past — and move forward with more clarity, connection, and self-trust.
