Individuals & Partners
Therapy for
navigating identity, intimacy, and change
Sometimes life just feels heavier than it should. You feel disconnected from yourself, stuck in old patterns, or distant in the relationships that matter most. You may not know exactly what's wrong, only that you don't feel like you.
I work with couples and individuals online throughout Oregon and Washington who are ready to stop managing symptoms and start exploring root causes. Many of my clients are navigating polyamory, ENM, or non-traditional relationships; questioning inherited identities; or making sense of being neurodivergent in a world that wasn't built for them.
Together, we slow down the patterns that once kept you safe but now keep you stuck. We reach the attachment needs, family roles, and inherited stories underneath, so you can choose what comes next.
I’m Whitney
Therapy, at its best, is an invitation to come home to yourself.
I work with individuals, couples, and partners online throughout Oregon and Washington who want to better understand themselves and their relationships.
Many of my clients come to therapy feeling stuck in familiar patterns: repeating the same conflicts, shutting down when they want to connect, feeling disconnected from themselves, or carrying old grief, family dynamics, and relational wounds that still shape the present.
Together, we slow things down and get curious about what is happening beneath the surface. We explore the needs, fears, stories, and protective strategies that shape how you relate to yourself and others, while building more clarity, connection, and choice.
My approach weaves attachment-based therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, psychodynamic depth psychology, family systems, narrative therapy, and nervous system awareness. More than any framework, I offer a warm, thoughtful relationship where you can feel seen, understood, and supported as you grow.
Focus Areas
For Couples & Partnerships
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The same arguments, the same shutdowns, the same hurt. Most couples' conflict is not really about the surface issue but the protective patterns underneath. We slow down the cycle, name what is actually happening, and build more attuned ways of reaching each other.
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Whether you are opening up a long-term partnership, navigating polyamory, exploring kink, or designing something that doesn't have a name yet, I support couples and partnerships in building structures rooted in honesty, consent, and real choice. The focus is not the label. The focus is whether what you are creating is sustainable and true.
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After rupture, withdrawal, betrayal, or the slow erosion of emotional safety, it can feel impossible to find your way back to each other. The bids get smaller. The defenses get bigger. Together we work to soften the protective patterns, repair the wounds that didn't get tended to, and rebuild the trust that lets you turn toward each other again.
For Individuals
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The caretaker, the peacekeeper, the lost child, the one who never needed anything. These were intelligent adaptations to the family you grew up in, and they often cost you in adulthood. Together we untangle the inheritance and make room for the parts of you that had to go underground.
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Some grief is the loss of a person. More often it is the loss of a role, a version of yourself, a future you had planned on. I work with the slow, nonlinear shape of grief and the identity questions that surface during transition: who you are now, who you were performing, and who you might become next.
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Whether diagnosed or self-identified, being neurodivergent shapes how you relate, regulate, and understand yourself. We work toward an affirming relationship with your specific wiring: understanding your nervous system, building self-trust around how you process and connect, and repairing the damage of being misread your whole life.
FAQs
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If you are feeling stuck, disconnected, or craving something deeper, therapy can help. You do not have to be in crisis. Sometimes the work begins simply with curiosity about why you do what you do.
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Yes. I work with couples, partnerships, and individuals across the relationship spectrum: monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, kink, and arrangements that are still in formation. As a polyamorous therapist myself, I bring lived familiarity to the work along with clinical training in ENM-affirming therapy.
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Yes. I work with ADHD, autistic, AuDHD, and highly sensitive clients. The work focuses on understanding your specific nervous system, building self-trust around how you process and connect, and creating a therapy experience that honors how your brain actually functions.
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I see clients online throughout Oregon and Washington.
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My standard rates are:
$120 for individual sessions (50–60 minutes)
$140 for relationship sessions (50–60 minutes)
$200 for 90-minute sessions
I offer a limited number of reduced-fee spots for clients who need financial flexibility. If cost is a barrier, we can discuss whether that option is available.
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I am an out-of-network provider and do not bill insurance directly. To make reimbursement easier, I partner with Mentaya, a service that handles out-of-network claims on your behalf. If you have a PPO plan with out-of-network mental health benefits, you may be reimbursed for a portion of each session without the paperwork of traditional superbills.