What Couples Therapy Actually Looks Like (When It’s Not Traditional)
If you’ve ever thought:
"Couples therapy is just for people on the verge of breaking up."
"We’re too messy — it won’t help."
"It’s going to be awkward, and the therapist will take sides."
Here’s the truth:
Good couples therapy doesn’t shame or pick winners.
It helps you understand your emotional patterns — and find your way back to each other.
Your relationship doesn’t have to be “failing” to benefit.
Couples therapy isn’t just about crisis — it’s about connection.
It’s a space to slow down, get curious, and rebuild emotional safety when patterns of miscommunication, distance, or resentment have taken root.
Whether you’re navigating a major transition, parenting, polyamory, neurodivergence, or just feeling stuck — therapy can help.
Even the strongest relationships hit places they can’t solve alone.
What we focus on isn’t just surface conflict — it’s the cycle underneath.
In my work, I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment theory to help partners notice the dance they’re in:
The push-pull dynamics
The silence or shutdowns
The ways vulnerability gets hidden under reactivity
We focus less on “who’s right” and more on what’s happening between you — and how you learned to protect yourselvesin love, often long before you met.
This is especially powerful for nontraditional relationships.
Many of my clients are navigating open relationships, polyamory, queerness, or neurodivergence — and haven’t always felt safe in therapy spaces.
You deserve a space where your relationship structure isn’t pathologized, and your love isn’t questioned — just supported.
My approach is affirming, nonjudgmental, and attuned to the complexity and beauty of how love can look outside the box.
Couples therapy is a space to reconnect — not a last resort.
It’s okay if things feel hard right now. It’s okay if one of you is hesitant.
What matters is that you’re willing to show up and begin.
We’ll move at a pace that works for you — with structure, care, and the belief that your relationship deserves space to grow.
💬 If this sounds like what you need…
I work with couples and individuals in Oregon who are seeking deeper emotional safety, better communication, and more secure connection. I offer affirming support for queer, polyamorous, neurodivergent, and nontraditional partnerships.
