12 Relationship Lessons from the Gottmans
Discover what 40 years of Gottman research reveals about lasting love. Learn about the Four Horsemen, perpetual problems, repair, and why 69% of conflicts never resolve.
When Trauma Shows Up in Relationships (and How to Begin Healing It)
Trauma doesn’t just live in the past — it shapes how we connect, trust, and love in the present.
This post explores how trauma shows up in relationships and offers gentle ways to begin healing together.
The New Emotional Inheritance: From Control to Connection
Many families never learned how to talk about emotions. Discover why that happens and how to begin expressing feelings with safety, awareness, and compassion.
How to Stop the Pursue Withdraw Cycle in Your Relationship
Understand why one partner chases and the other shuts down, what drives the pursue–withdraw cycle, and how to reconnect with empathy and emotional safety.
The Secret to Desire: Staying Yourself During Sex
True intimacy isn’t about merging—it’s about staying connected while remaining yourself. The same principle applies to sex. Therapist Martha Kauppi’s model of sexual differentiation reframes desire as a developmental process, showing that erotic vitality grows when partners can be both safe and separate, honest and embodied. Sexual challenges aren’t failures; they’re invitations to grow in integrity, curiosity, and courage.
The Intimacy Paradox: Why Closeness Requires Distance
Most of us think love means becoming one. But real intimacy requires something harder: staying connected while remaining yourself. Here's how differentiation changes everything about the way we love.
EFT for Couples: What to Expect in Your First Session
Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples move from disconnection to closeness by transforming emotional patterns and teaching new ways to communicate with empathy and safety.
Why You Keep Dating the Same Person in Different Bodies
Why do we repeat the same painful patterns in love, family, or work—even when we know better? This post explores the psychology of repetitive repulsion through attachment, conditioning, and generational inheritance, and how awareness allows us to create new endings.
Rethinking Commitment: Lessons from Non-Monogamy
What if commitment wasn’t defined by exclusivity, but by integrity — by the willingness to keep choosing each other and to renegotiate as we grow? The philosophy of non-monogamy invites us to question the cultural scripts we’ve inherited about love and partnership. It’s less a structure and more a way of relating rooted in freedom, consent, and self-awareness.
The Quiet Signs Your Relationship Needs Help
Something feels off. Maybe you feel more like roommates than lovers, or you’ve lost touch with your own aliveness. Couples therapy can help you understand what’s changing and bring curiosity, closeness, and spark back to your relationship.
ART: The Trauma Therapy That Works in Weeks, Not Years
Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) helps your brain resolve painful memories through memory reconsolidation, eye movements, and guided imagery—often with relief in just a few sessions. This gentle, client-centered approach reduces distress without retelling every detail and integrates well with attachment and relational therapy.
What Research Shows Actually Heals (It's Not What You Think)
If therapy feels like it’s not working, you’re not alone. Learn what research shows actually helps — and why the relationship and your engagement matter more than any technique.