Reflections on relationships, identity, attachment, and change

Articles for individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships exploring polyamory and ENM, neurodivergence, queer identity, emotional intimacy, trauma, grief, and the patterns that shape how we love.

Whitney Summerer 10/20/25 Whitney Summerer 10/20/25

How to Stop the Pursue-Withdraw Cycle in Your Relationship

Understand why one partner chases and the other shuts down, what drives the pursue–withdraw cycle, and how to reconnect with empathy and emotional safety.

Whitney Summerer 10/18/25 Whitney Summerer 10/18/25

Signs You May Need Couples Therapy

Something feels off. Maybe you feel more like roommates than lovers, or you’ve lost touch with your own aliveness. Couples therapy can help you understand what’s changing and bring curiosity, closeness, and spark back to your relationship.